SOURCE: Shawn Anderson

Shawn Anderson

March 06, 2014 16:03 ET

7 Secrets to Overcome Life's Most Painful Blows

LOS ANGELES, CA--(Marketwired - Mar 6, 2014) - Motivational author and speaker, Shawn Anderson, has interviewed hundreds of people who have successfully survived life's darkest days. From lost jobs and failed business attempts, to family deaths and personal tragedies, Anderson has been witness to many who have walked through their toughest moment only to make it to the other side with an increased passion and purpose for living.

"It's a guarantee that each of us will feel life's brutal gut punch a number of times," Anderson says. "Being fired, getting divorced, losing someone to death... life can sting us in a hundred ways. But when it's our turn to rise from the blow, how will we handle it?"

From his interviews, Anderson discovered that people who transition the most successfully through life's darkest moments practice at least one of seven regrouping strategies.

1. They don't quit on life. "Tragedy might have happened, huge mistakes might have been made, but life continues. People who have walked successfully over life's hot-coal moments never quit living," Anderson shares.

2. They live day-by-day. "After a tragedy, it's easy to get overwhelmed by the devastating 'What am I going to do now?' question," Anderson shares. "Survivors, though, don't look too far into the future. Instead, they focus on living the day."

3. They find support from the right people. "Spending time with people who are stuck on commiserating with us about how much life sucks is not a recommended path," Anderson learned. "What will bring us back from the walking dead faster is hanging out with positive, move-forward type people who spark positive energy back into our lives."

4. They get involved again. "People who transcend life's tragedies rarely choose isolation after life kicks them," Anderson shares. "It's easy to want to hide in a cave after a major defeat, but the longer we stay in the cave, the harder it is to ever leave it."

5. They still see the positive. "Survivors don't let negative self-talk take over and rule their brains. They know not to surrender to self-defeating emotions," Anderson says.

6. They look for a higher purpose in their loss. "Some who endure a stinging defeat are motivated to look at the potential lessons. Others lean on their faith and renew their spiritual beliefs. Having a belief in a higher power works miracles in overcoming life's firestorms," Anderson cites.

7. They seek to add value to the world. "People who successfully weather a life storm recognize the opportunity to re-evaluate their own contribution to the world. They use their experience not as a forever defeat, but rather as an igniting spark to make their lives count even more," Anderson, a success coach, states.

The author of six motivational books, including A Better Life: An Inspiring Story About Starting Over and Extra Mile America: Stories of Inspiration, Possibility and Purpose, Anderson is not only committed to support others in overcoming life's toughest moments, he is also a leading voice on "going the extra mile" in order to maximize potential and contribution. On November 1, 2013, Anderson's Extra Mile America organization led 444 cities to declare "Extra Mile Day"... a day recognizing the capacity we each have to create positive change in ourselves, families, organizations and communities when we "go the extra mile."

"When something deflating happens, do we passionately keep on living, or do we just give up and go through the motions? The decision we make determines our destiny."

CREDIT: Shawn Anderson is a six-time author, keynote speaker and motivational success coach. His "go the extra mile" philosophy and ability to produce results have been praised by political leaders, world record holders and media outlets across the world. His book titles include A Better Life: An Inspiring Story About Starting Over and Extra Mile America: Stories of Inspiration, Possibility and Purpose. For more information, visit

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