SOURCE: San Francisco Suicide Prevention

San Francisco Suicide Prevention

February 08, 2010 18:00 ET

Valentine's Day Can Mean the Blues for Some

SF Suicide Prevention Crisis Line Can Help

SAN FRANCISCO, CA--(Marketwire - February 8, 2010) - Eve Meyer, executive director of San Francisco Suicide Prevention, can bring levity to the darkest of topics, "Single people are depressed, those dating are stressed, and married couples are teetering on the brink of despair. Valentine's Day is on its way." For many it's a time for renewing the loving feelings for friends and family. But for too many, it's a sad and lonely time.

"Loneliness is a very powerful emotion," Meyer states. "It can lead to depression, illness, even suicidal thoughts. Many people feel blue this time of year. It's an extension of the holiday depression many people experience around Christmas."

Dr. James Houran, director of psychological studies at TRUEBeginnings, spearheaded a scientific study to assess the validity of "Valentine's Day Blues." ( - April 27, 2004) The study concluded that adults who did not participate in or receive gifts or other tokens of affection in connection with Valentine's Day exhibit signs of emotional stress, ranging from mild depression to noticeable anxiety.

Meyer offers many ways to alleviate the Valentine's Day blues:

-- Don't feel there is something wrong with you if you're not in a
   relationship. Your worth comes from what you are, not who
   you're with.
-- Don't look back at old relationships as missed opportunities.
   Look to the future. Even those happy couples you see were single
   before they met their current love.
-- Treat yourself to something special on Valentine's Day. You deserve it.
   Sometimes loving yourself is better than being loved by someone else.
-- Force yourself to smile on Valentine's Day. The simple act of smiling
   can lift depression away more effectively than anything.
-- Valentine's Day doesn't have to be just about romance. Make the day
   a positive experience for others who may be dreading it. Volunteer,
   visit people in nursing homes, get in touch with a long lost friend.
-- Don't wait for someone to contact you -- contact them. And if they
   seem too busy, it doesn't mean they are rejecting you. Try another time!

"It's normal to get the holiday blues. But if feelings of depression persist, it's important to talk to someone about it and seek professional help," said Meyer.

San Francisco Suicide Prevention (SFSP) is the oldest volunteer crisis line in the United States. Founded in 1963, SFSP provides telephone intervention to people experiencing suicidal crisis as well as general counseling services 24 hours a day by over 150 trained volunteers. The 24-hour Crisis line is: 415-781-0500.

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